Free State Festival

Hey friends. So my friend and I just left the Free State Festival; so many different things going on throughout the week! I've lived in this town for years and never knew it existed. I'm honesty ashamed. I've missed out on so much inspiration!!!!

We watched a film from an author who was there. He talked about his book and about the screen writing process. This event was free. I'm so glad I got to go even if it was just for the experience. The film was interesting enough though. 

Being able to go and listen to him talk and people ask questions just made all my creative gears start turning. I could actually picture myself sitting there talking about my book. I know your all waiting so patiently on me. Just keep waiting because it will happen!!!! I promise you that. 

Now I gotta run, have to go to work in the early am :( one day, writing will be my full time job and I will enjoy waking up to get started. Until then, I just have to fake it until I make it! Be easy stay blessed. 

   -Mz J 

Grinds my gears

Hey all! I'm still here, I just go on mini vacations from my blog. Lol I don't mean to! Forgive me though I know yall miss your Mz J!!!!!

Okay so yall realllllllly wana know what grinds my gears ?? When someone tells me they will do something but don't. 

I do my best to stick to my word. If I tell you I'll do something then I will (to the best of my ability) make sure I do it. If I can't then I won't tell you I will. For example. I tell all my friends to call on me whenever they need me. With that being said what would I look like if I was never available when they needed me?!

If you tell me you're going to do something for me, I expect you to. If you have a valid reason for not, then I will understand. I'll never letchu live it down but I won't be mad. But why tell me you're gona do something if you have ZERO intentions on doing said thing?! What sense does that make? NONE!!!!

I was sitting here thinking about some things I've asked people to do and they haven't so it bothered me and I decided to rant. :) thanks for listening. Be easy. Stay blessed. 

    -Mz J 

Love is hard.

Have you ever done long distance?? Well it sucks. If you never have to, don't. That whole "absence makes the heart grow fonder" crap only lasts for awhile. After awhile it's like who are you again?! 

Being a woman that is in a long distance relationship it's hard to keep the best attitude. I see couples shopping together and just want to trip them! But when my friends tell me about stuff they get to do with their man, it's like but I wana do that too! Oh you get to go to dinner with your man? Great. Oh you and your man cuddled up watching Netflix? Great. Oh you and your man get to see each other and talk all the time? JUST GREAT! I want to scream 'I don't care' but then, what kinda friend would I be?

But honestly it's hard. It sucks not being able to have my man around whenever I want him there. And the worst part is when I need him there! Like what if someone is bothering me and I need him to get em off my back? Gota deal with it alone. What if I have something heavy I need him to help me move? Gotta break my back doin it on my own. What if I can't reach something? Gotta use something to get it down on my own! What if there's a huge spider I need him to kill? Gotta kill it on my own(which I would have to do anyway, he's scared of them but don't tell him I told you that)!!

Now to the previous paragraph... If I needed him he would get here. And I'm sure I've got plenty of friends that would help me move heavy stuff and reach stuff in high places too. It was jus a point I was making :)

However the negative parts will probably always outweigh the good simply because doing a long distance relationship is challenging. Speically if it's a new one. Trying to figure out what does and doesn't work for yall ON TOP of doing long distance is almost insane.  But the time you do get to see them is that much more memorable BCUZ you don't get to see them as much. You long for their presence, their smell, to be able to actually see their facial expressions, for them! If two people equally put in the same amount of effort and are working towards the SAME goal, it will be worth it!

I know yall are probably like "why doesn't she just date a guy in town?"  Because it's not that easy. Most guys around me don't give me the time of day. And I told myself I would never do a long distance relationship again. But he just caught my attention and refused to let it go. And it's probably harder on ME bcuz I've done the distance before and didn't want to do it again, but that doesn't mean that he or myself isn't worth the effort. 

If you get to be with your man or woman and see them all the time, don't take that for granted. Not everyone is that blessed. Cherish that time you do get with em bcuz you never know when something may happen that you have to be apart or when God calls them home!

That's it for now loves. Be easy. Stay blessed. 

  -Mz J

Why even bother?!

Let's talk about cheating. When I was young my parents split up because of cheating. When I found out about it, I've vowed that I would never cheat because the effect it had on my life. I was too young then to realize that it didn't tear up my life,it gave me a new life one that I would not have had cheating not been involved.

However I do not agree with cheating. I had to end my marriage because of cheating;my childhood had cheating in it and then my marriage had cheating in it. I despise cheating!  

When I'm in a relationship with somebody I'm completely loyal to the person, I'm all about that person. They are all over my phone, all over my social media sites,I talk about them to everybody,everybody knows I'm in a relationship. I have no desire to ever cheat on anyone. Hell I even feel guilty for seeing somebody that I think is attractive!!!

My thing is -why waste somebody's time if you really don't want to be with them ?why marry them ?why I have kids with them ? why spending years with this person when you're just going to cheat on them? I know things happen, life changes , people change. Maybe you fall out of love with that person, maybe they become somebody that you don't like and that is all fine but don't cheat on them! Talk to them about it if they won't change or don't fix the issue then leave point and simple leave! 

If you've never been cheated on I hope you never do get cheated on because it is something terrible to go through. The feeling of being betrayed, of the lies,of the secrets- it's  just uncalled for. And not only that, but if you get cheated on enough or bad enough then It can mess up future relationships. You've always got to question that future person's actions and everything it is ridiculous!

So if you feel like cheating think about this : do you have kids ? do you have a son or daughter ? what is going to happen when they grow up and someone breaks their heart because they cheated on them ? how is that going to make you feel because that's exactly what you're doing to the person that you cheated on or thinking about cheating on. Just don't do it ! Be an adult talk about the issues. It's not rocket science it's common sense!!!! 

That's enough for today. Be easy,say blessed. 

   -Mz J

Let's be real.

People always say "treat people how you want to be treated". And that sounds great but let's be honest, does it really matter? 

No matter how nice I am to people or how much I do for them, they still treat me like crap. Now I'm not talking about everyone because there are still some decent people around but those that I keep running into are just rude. 

So many times I have people look down on me and expect me to throw myself over a puddle so they don't get their shoes wet. Nope. I ain't gona do it. I wouldn't ask you to do that for me, so I'm not about to do that for you!!! Like sharing my fries. I wouldn't dare unless I really like you so don't get upset when I give you the stank eye. LOL

I'm mostly speaking from a retail standpoint because I keep dealing with rude people tonight. And I just have to smile on through my attitude. But that's okay. I'm an adult. I can keep my attitude in check. 

Just a lil rant cuz I haven't wrote and I missed you guys!! Be blessed. Stay easy. 

  Mz J